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In China, parents mourn children abducted by traffickers

Written by Kay on . Posted in China News & Tidbits

mourning-mother-3mourning-motherThis story is at Reuters news.

By James Pomfret and Venus Wu

DONGGUAN (Reuters) – In the quiet village of Shang Di, wedged among factory towns in southern China, Deng Huidong wheels out a dusty two-seater tricycle that her 9-month-old son rode the day he was abducted outside her family house in 2007.

Little Ruicong, who was snatched by men in a white van as he played in an alleyway, hasn’t been seen since.

He is one of hundreds, perhaps thousands of children who go missing in China each year, victims of roving criminal gangs preying on vulnerable areas.

“My heart is bleeding,” said Deng as she cried beside a framed photograph of her son splashing in a bath tub.

“I just want to find my son. Every time I see a child, it reminds me of my son and I wonder whether I will see him again.”

While China has made giant economic and social strides over the past few decades, the number of abducted children remains alarmingly high in a nation whose wrenching one-child policy and yawning income disparities have fueled demand for children particularly male heirs, trafficked by underground syndicates.

Human trafficking is widespread across China with kidnapping cases reported in numerous provinces across the country, according to witnesses and postings on missing child websites. Some children are abducted to serve as props for beggars and women are also kidnapped and sold into prostitution or as forced labor in factories.

While many parents are aware of the problem and have bolstered supervision of their kids in known blackspots, elsewhere, particularly in rural areas, a lack of publicity and media exposure means parents are unaware of the problem and often let their children play outdoors unsupervised.

Estimates are difficult to come by, though the China Ministry of Public Security reported investigating 2,566 potential trafficking cases in 2008.

“Due to lack of information and the difficulty of tracing children in a vast country such as China, very few children have actually been found,” Kirsten Di Martino, UNICEF’s Chief of Child Protection in China told Reuters in a written response to questions.


The plight of such torn families is often made worse by indifferent, sometimes callous treatment by local police, lax child trafficking laws and poor enforcement.

“In one case, the traffickers even dared to abduct a child right inside a police station … this shows how rampant they are,” Zheng Chunzhong, a bakery owner in Dongguan whose son was kidnapped in 2003, told Reuters.

Since then, the slim, softly-spoken Zheng has pressured Dongguan authorities to do more to fight the problem, forming a local alliance of some 200 parents who held a recent protest march outside local government offices.

“There are too many cases of missing children. They (the police) are too embarrassed to let higher-level officials know,” he said during a lunch that was interrupted by a public security officer, a reminder of the police surveillance he says he’s long endured due to his outspokenness on the issue. Continued…

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In Memory of Baby Hope

Written by Kay on . Posted in How You Can Help A Child


Remember little Baby Hope from around 5 weeks ago? This is what I wrote:

“Baby Hope was found outside her orphanage with some formula, 150 rmb and an IV indwelling still attached to her head. Obviously, my original theory was almost right on. The parentswere given the news at the hospital that their little girl was very sick and they made the gut-wrenching choice to abandon her in the hopes that someone would be able to help her.”

Three families [actually four] stepped up right away to sponsor her for foster care. But though we tried to do what was best for little Hope, she has died from heart failure.

What makes me the most sad is she never got to bask in the arms of a forever mom or grow up feeling like she ‘belonged’ to a family. I am thankful for those few weeks of foster care but am still sad for the tragic short life she lived. I am also sad for her parents who probably believe they have left her in the care of the government and that their daughter will get the medical help she needs. They won’t even know she is gone–but perhaps her mother will feel it in her heart.

To those of you who stepped up and sponsored her, thank you so very much for at least giving her a foster mom for a short while.


Win Mandarin Picture Word Book!

Written by Kay on . Posted in China News & Tidbits

I have the cutest children’s book that teaches simple Mandarin words. With summer here, what better time to teach your child some basic Chinese? I want to give it away to one of you! Here are the rules…

Comment to this post with:

Your child’s first name
Your child’s age
A cute thing that they have said or still say

I will be giving away 2 of the books by putting all responses in a bucket and randomly pulling the first two names.

I’ll go first, since I don’t count!

Now 18
Once said after she ran straight into my bent over backside, “Ouch, Mama, you are not soft back there like Maw Maw!”

The drawing will be June 30!

Another Bamboo Baby Gets Sponsor for Foster Care!

Written by Kay on . Posted in How You Can Help A Child

Following is a letter from one of our Bamboo Baby Sponsors:

Hi Kay,

Hope all is well with you! I just wanted to give you an update and share with you how God has once again orchestrated His plan in my life!

I was feeling a little disappointed that I didn’t get to be one of Baby Hope’s sponsors. i was mad at myself for not responding more quickly.

However I did email Pearl River Outreach and she got the ball rolling for our family to sponsor a different child and lo & behold, we were given a precious little one, Jayden, who was born with a cleft lip and palate. I was immediately drawn to this little one and so understand her needs because of our own daughter who also was born with a cleft lip and palate. When we received her picture…oh my goodness…talk about falling in love…I feel so honored that we are able to help her with her physical needs and also very importantly, her spiritual needs. We are praying for her daily and asking for God’s blessings upon her and asking Him to provide her with a family.

So in a nut shell, through all these various steps (and perhaps, missteps) God has given to me and my family the child He wanted us to sponsor…how cool is that? I just love how God works and how He uses people to help bring together His plan! So, thank you! Your initial post about Baby Hope brought us together with little Jayden!

I just wanted to let you know…



What Can You do?

Written by Kay on . Posted in How You Can Help A Child

Many reader write me and ask, “What Can I Do To Help?”

There are many ways you can make a difference in the life of a child. It doesn’t have to be a child in China but if that is where you feel your passion or connection, than that is where you should focus.  After spending time working in a Chinese orphanage for several years, I always answer that the best way to help is to sponsor a child for foster care. For only $35 a month, you could help keep a child out of the orphanage and instead place them in the loving arms of foster parents. For me, just seeing the difference in vitality and personality between fostered children and institutionalized children was huge– and to see how fast a child could open up and flourish once placed was amazing.

Maybe you cannot afford $35 a month? If not, what about sharing that sponsorship with another couple or with your Sunday School class or your book club? It is also a great project for students to sponsor a child. To learn more go to Pearl River Outreach. They have a list of children just waiting for sponsors.

You can also join the Mifan Mommy Club! We are an online group of individuals who provide rice, milk and other projects for disadvantaged orphans in China. For only $9 a month, you could make a huge impact. Go here for more information:

Anqi in A Box

Written by Kay on . Posted in Mifan Mommy Updates

Little Anqi was found in this box in Yinshang along with milk and her xrays.  She was brought to the orphanage and the director allowed the China Chapter of Mifan Mommies to step in and help. Anqi –nicknamed Angie– is now doing well recovering from her emergency surgery for her intestinal blockage. The China Mifan Moms have set up rotations of sitting with Anqi now that she is post-surgery.


Update on Jia Jia 2009 June

Written by Kay on . Posted in Orphanage Flashbacks

For you SILENT TEARS readers who remember Jia Jia in the book, here is an update:

It’s been a long time since I sent an e-mail about Jia Jia but I guess cause we are just living our normal everyday life and there isn’t much new going on. But there has been a special event that happened last week. Jia Jia graduated kindergarten! She is such a different little girl than when she first started school. She speaks very good english, although there are still some things she doesn’t say right but I think that’s the case with all kids at her age. She can write her name and spell her name, first and last. She can read small words, she can say the days of the weeks and the months in the year and so on. Her teacher was so proud of her improvement. She also has picked up phrases like My feet are “killing” me and I am “burning” up. It’s pretty funny. She also tells the other kids when she wants something from them “I’ll be your best friend”.

She will be 7 in November. It’s hard to believe she is that old. Well anyways, here are some pictures from her graduation and I stuck one in there of her having fun at Chuck E Cheeses.